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Although Matt and I have only been married a little over a year, I feel like we have fallen into a rhythm that has kept our 'dating love' alive. So often, you hear about a couple getting married and then the passion/excitement fading away. And I can see how that might happen - you wake up and go to sleep next to the same person every.single.day. You see them at their best and their worst, and learn to either just live with or love some of their quirks.
1. Saying I Love You... and not just before bed/when hanging up the phone. Love notes are essential. As in reminding the other person you love them during a fight, and when you are just walking down the street.
2. Embracing and seeking adventure together. Whether the adventure is just a long walk to a new part of town, eating at a crazy hole-in-the-wall, or a big move to a new city, new experiences are meant to be embraced. I find that during our crazy little normal life detours, our conversation swells and we have a chance to grow and enjoy a shared experience.
3. Keeping a good balance of time with each other alone, time with friends, and time spent as a couple with friends. We are both extremely social people, and would spend way to much time socializing if we didn't make a conscious effort to keep a balance. In the same respect, if we were to spend all of our time together, we would miss out on the re-energizing effects of being with each of our friends. It's all about balance, right?
4. Laughing. All the time. I know, I know, this seems like a given. But sometimes, forcing yourself to laugh at a situation instead of getting angry can keep the mood light instead of turning it into an argument over nothing. Between funny work stories, putting clothing on our dog, or just trying to lighten a difficult situation by bringing in some humor, making each other laugh can really remind us of why we like each other. And most of the time, that's a good thing to remember!
I agree! Especially spending time alone with each other. We always hang out with our group of friends but sometimes it's important to be alone.
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Great post, sweet Sarah. Love your words of advice, and I will always adore that fabulous wedding you and Matt had. That photo outside the theatre is simply fab!
ReplyDeletewhat a great post sarah. very thoughtful advice, it all makes a lot of sense. thanks for sharing your wisdom :)
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